The art of letting go

It is human nature to become attached to things or people.  And it can be very difficult to find out how to let go from these attachments even if we know that they are not good for us. The Buddha even went so far as saying that our addictive behaviour is the root of all suffering.

But why is it so difficult to let go? Why is it so hard to give up a bad habit or an ex-lover? The truth is that most of us suffer from a feeling of inner emptiness that we are trying to fill up with our various attachments – often without much success. One person may eat too much, another may cling to an unloving partner while a third may get addicted to social media. But none of this can fill our inner emptiness.

How can we learn to let go?

The first step to letting go is to take a good, hard look at the things and people that we are so attached to. Do they really fill that nagging sense of inner emptiness? Is our ex-lover really this wonderful person that we make them out to be?

It is amazing how much we can deceive ourselves, believing that things and people will bring us happiness when, in reality, it was never the case. In other words, we need to burst the fantasy bubble that we have built around our addictive clinging and then we need to make a decision to give it up.

Face the emptiness

The next step is to face the emptiness that will appear once we try to give up a bad habit or a person who does not want to be with us. Doing this needs courage but I will now tell you a technique that will make this step easier. When temptation strikes we simply sit down comfortably and relax our whole body and mind. You will notice that the sense of craving is like a contraction in your mind that you can relax and release with every out-breath.

Wrap yourself in love

Then we envelop ourselves with love like a loving mother would cradle an unsettled child. In that way, we give ourselves the very thing that we have wrongly expected from our addictive habits. Only love can fill our inner emptiness and we can get this love directly from ourselves. And once we feel this inner fulfillment it will be much easier to let go and invite healthier habits and people into our life.

A bubble of love

Once we are filled up with love, we envelop the object or person of our temptation with a bubble of love as well and let this bubble slowly drift away until it gradually disappears into the distance. If this is difficult, we simply remember vividly all the negative consequences that will happen if we carry on clinging.

What are the takeaway keys?

The essence of the art of letting go is truthfulness, relaxation and love.

 

The power of gong meditation and sound immersion

A Gong Meditation is often called a Gong Bath. No….you do not undress, nor do you get drenched in water! We like to say you are b-a-t-h-e-d in sound. It is one of the easiest ways to go deep into a meditative state. And this is why:

In a Gong meditation you lie down, or sit, softly closing your eyes and giving your body the PERMISSION to relax.  You are usually taken through some gentle belly breathing, and as the gongs and other sound instruments are played, you drift from a beta, into an alpha and then, a theta estate.

But what are these states/waves related to?

Beta is a 14-40 Hz, waking consciousness and reasoning brain wave
Alpha is 7.5-14 Hz, a deep relaxation brain wave
Theta is the 4-7.5 Hz, light meditation and sleeping brain wave

Most people drift between these states throughout the session while some others will go deep immediately.  It´s not unusual to hear a symphony of snores (!) and deep sighing, from time to time. You finally wake up deeply refreshed, rested yet energized. And almost everyone who attends a session tells us how, besides other positive effects, they enjoyed an amazing night of sleep thereafter.

Gong Meditations are very adaptable:

  • Some sessions have a guided visualization topic that deals with a particular area of life.
  • They  could be accompanied as well  by a Laughter Yoga session or physical exercises to release anger.
  • Can be used as well to cleanse and clear a room, to inaugurate a space or as the closing session for an event.
  • It can be a session for individuals or groups, for staff or for students, and all different ages.

It is, basically, for anyone and everyone. As Grand Gong Master, Don Conreaux, envisions:  “A Gong in Every Home”.

During the session, the facilitator would play, besides the gong/s, intuitively some other instruments such as: singing bowls or crystal bowls, conch shells, bird whistles, feathers, ocean drums, rain sticks, tongue drums, hang drums, chimes, bells, harps, rattles, xylophones and shruti boxes, or a myriad other sound instruments which will bring you into a blissful state of body -mind.

Sessions usually end with a brief, silent, couple of minutes that is called the “Shuniya” or “Sunyata”, literally meaning “emptiness” or “void”. This is the time for the sounds to settle, so the inner peace and the oneness will remain with you for the rest of the day.

We have a Gong Immersion night coming up on Saturday 12th, 6pm – 7pm, at our Nundah studio, and we would love to see you there!

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